To me , the horse is a mystical creature, a nomadic prey animal that has a primal defense system. Even in the sweltering heat of summer, my friend and I have to coax and to a certain extent , forced her horse into drinking , to stay hydrated but it was totally uncooperative. No amount of coaxing and sweet talking could sway its 'decision'; it would drink when it was good and ready. Based on the experience, I am convinced that one can't force a horse to drink.
More generally,the proverb is used in the senses of " there's only so much you can do" or "people will do what they want to do " or " you can't help people who don't want to be helped"
As well intended as we are in helping others, whether in creating opportunities or opening the door for them , we have to bear in mind that the choice to grab the opportunity has to be their own . Do not convince against his will for he would still be of the same opinion and worse still if he becomes resentful about being pursuaded against his will.
Give help to others but do not expect too much ,it only adds to our suffering and frustration. Expectation is the root of heartaches.
Saturday, August 15, 2015
"If you think you are green, you can still ripen; But if you think you are ripe, then you can only rot."
" Green you grow , ripe you rot "
The ability to grow and develop are defining features of life. It is a biological imperative.
The instant you stop growing , you start dying ! The latter is associated with the notions of decline , decay , morbidity and finally mortality.
In order to keep growing , we need to push ourselves, to get out of our comfort zones. Of course , there will be discomfort - like a strain one feels when a muscle that is seldom used is stretched. Holding out against the discomfort will make one stronger in the end ,very much like the muscle being exercised.
Comfort is the enemy of environment ," rotting " is detested , death is feared, growth is important and if we embrace growth , we are more true to our authentic nature as living beings -just like the trees spreading their branches, birds build nests and bear young....
Thus , think green and grow.
The ability to grow and develop are defining features of life. It is a biological imperative.
The instant you stop growing , you start dying ! The latter is associated with the notions of decline , decay , morbidity and finally mortality.
In order to keep growing , we need to push ourselves, to get out of our comfort zones. Of course , there will be discomfort - like a strain one feels when a muscle that is seldom used is stretched. Holding out against the discomfort will make one stronger in the end ,very much like the muscle being exercised.
Comfort is the enemy of environment ," rotting " is detested , death is feared, growth is important and if we embrace growth , we are more true to our authentic nature as living beings -just like the trees spreading their branches, birds build nests and bear young....
Thus , think green and grow.
When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you
It all starts on the inside. The only person who can hold you down is you.
The enemy within is more dangerous than without.
There are a whole lot of them , the enemies from within - fear , self doubt, anger , jealousy .... and all the negative thinking.
It is in our natural design to doubt , fear and limit ourselves , to protect us from hurt or adversities.
But people are more fearful than necessary and the fears actually make it hard to surmount the very adversity itself.
When people give in to fear , they lose energy , momentum and confidence in what they do. This translates into inaction that lowers the confidence level even further . Anxiety ; stress , frustration , anger and all that are negative go right up ! Fear simply creates its own self - fulfilling dynamics.
The external enemies in the form of problem/ crisis are not insurmountable if we change our mindset. If we view them as a challenge that affords us the opportunity to prove our mettle , a chance to toughen ourself ;if we change our mental process from negative ( fear & self doubt) to positive , action will be resulted.
No doubt its the mind that drives the body! Its our inner shine that will take care of the "weather "outside
The enemy within is more dangerous than without.
There are a whole lot of them , the enemies from within - fear , self doubt, anger , jealousy .... and all the negative thinking.
It is in our natural design to doubt , fear and limit ourselves , to protect us from hurt or adversities.
But people are more fearful than necessary and the fears actually make it hard to surmount the very adversity itself.
When people give in to fear , they lose energy , momentum and confidence in what they do. This translates into inaction that lowers the confidence level even further . Anxiety ; stress , frustration , anger and all that are negative go right up ! Fear simply creates its own self - fulfilling dynamics.
The external enemies in the form of problem/ crisis are not insurmountable if we change our mindset. If we view them as a challenge that affords us the opportunity to prove our mettle , a chance to toughen ourself ;if we change our mental process from negative ( fear & self doubt) to positive , action will be resulted.
IF YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE TOO SMALL TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE, TRY SLEEPING WITH A MOSQUITO.
It happens to us all ( unless you sleep like a log or the dead),the nightmare caused by the tiny pesky mosquito whining like the dentist drill next to your ear. When you hear it, you will want to swat at it and when you dont hear it , you will be wide awake listening for it so that you can swat at it. Whichever happens , you are doomed to poor sleep!
Human can endure some of the most incredible hardships without uttering the slightest sound but will get all upset over something small by comparison. A grain of sand in our shoe is a case in point. The little sand grain will prick and irritate us to no end till it is got rid of !
Never think that one is too small to make a difference nor underestimate the power of one .
One friend , one person who is truly understanding, who takes the time & patience to listen to us as we consider our problems can change our whole outlook.
One person can trigger a million thoughts .
One person can be the teacher that fires imaginations and awaken the genius in you.
That is the power of one. No one is too small to make a difference .
One dedicated person is worth a hundred who are only interested .
Human can endure some of the most incredible hardships without uttering the slightest sound but will get all upset over something small by comparison. A grain of sand in our shoe is a case in point. The little sand grain will prick and irritate us to no end till it is got rid of !
Never think that one is too small to make a difference nor underestimate the power of one .
One friend , one person who is truly understanding, who takes the time & patience to listen to us as we consider our problems can change our whole outlook.
One person can trigger a million thoughts .
One person can be the teacher that fires imaginations and awaken the genius in you.
That is the power of one. No one is too small to make a difference .
One dedicated person is worth a hundred who are only interested .
A fool says what he knows and a wise man knows what he says
The truth is so eloquently conveyed in this proverb👍
There is a time and place to speak/talk.Wise men know this well but fools spill everything without any thoughts & preparation.
" Wise men speak because they have something to say , fools because they have to say something " PLATO
As fools always rush in to say something , much of what they say are just idle , angry and unimportant words , unstudied & unverified nonsense .... which are much better off left unspoken. A fool's mouth is his destruction for often , he ends up divulging more than he should or intended.
The wise men , by keeping silent much of the time , are actually exhibiting a great virtue . Silence , when nothing needs to be said, is the eloquence of discretion, also the safest respondent for any contradictions. By keeping silent , it helps to cover folly , keep secrets , avoid disputes . A fool utters all his mind but a wise man keep it till afterwards . Of course the latter has the advantage !
There is a time and place to speak/talk.Wise men know this well but fools spill everything without any thoughts & preparation.
" Wise men speak because they have something to say , fools because they have to say something " PLATO
As fools always rush in to say something , much of what they say are just idle , angry and unimportant words , unstudied & unverified nonsense .... which are much better off left unspoken. A fool's mouth is his destruction for often , he ends up divulging more than he should or intended.
The wise men , by keeping silent much of the time , are actually exhibiting a great virtue . Silence , when nothing needs to be said, is the eloquence of discretion, also the safest respondent for any contradictions. By keeping silent , it helps to cover folly , keep secrets , avoid disputes . A fool utters all his mind but a wise man keep it till afterwards . Of course the latter has the advantage !
When the going gets tough , the tough gets going
[8/11/2015, 15:47]
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Tough ppl are the ones with emotional fortitude and they know how to deal with challenges and setbacks that are never short in life.
They are the people who are able to ride the waves of adversity while others are more likely to be pulled under by the torrent .
The toughs are resilient ppl who perceive difficult times as temporary state of affairs. They do not moan about the situations but rather accept what comes to them with flexibility.They know that times are tough but these too , shall pass as " nothing lasts forever "
Tough times happen to all of us and when they come viciously forc ing their might on us , it can crumble those who allow the feeling of fear and loss to overtake them. At times like this , imagine yourself to be trapped under layers of rock with no light seeping through and no rescuers in the vicinity. The feeling is a mixture of fear , loss and hopelessness . But then , as long as you are still breathing , there is still a chance that you will be rescued.
The hardest part of tough times is not to lose hope.The point I plan to make is : tough times are unavoidable but they are only transient . So when times get tough , we have to hold our head up and find an inner strength to forge forward
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Tough ppl are the ones with emotional fortitude and they know how to deal with challenges and setbacks that are never short in life.
They are the people who are able to ride the waves of adversity while others are more likely to be pulled under by the torrent .
The toughs are resilient ppl who perceive difficult times as temporary state of affairs. They do not moan about the situations but rather accept what comes to them with flexibility.They know that times are tough but these too , shall pass as " nothing lasts forever "
Tough times happen to all of us and when they come viciously forc ing their might on us , it can crumble those who allow the feeling of fear and loss to overtake them. At times like this , imagine yourself to be trapped under layers of rock with no light seeping through and no rescuers in the vicinity. The feeling is a mixture of fear , loss and hopelessness . But then , as long as you are still breathing , there is still a chance that you will be rescued.
The hardest part of tough times is not to lose hope.The point I plan to make is : tough times are unavoidable but they are only transient . So when times get tough , we have to hold our head up and find an inner strength to forge forward
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